Who can’t add? Apparently me.
September 23, 2008 at 4:38 pm | In Uncategorized | 7 CommentsYesterday would be considered a long, long, long day. We have meetings here on Monday’s after the show , so we never leave the office until late. The meetings aren’t that bad, though. I mean we sit around and joke and everyone wants to be the funniest in the room, so it’s full of laughing and joking. I can’t complain about it too much.. It’s just hard to sit still for a long time…no matter how much fun we’re having…especially when we’re tired. And the whole time my brain is chugging along with my to-do list which I managed to forget most of because I suck. I did remember to log onto my online banking thingy only to find out…
My balance was -$515! How did I do this? I’ve been trying so hard to be responsible with my money and not using credit cards and pay stuff off, but this realization threw my responsible head into shock I don’t know where the money went. I don’t understand this online banking thing. I have three accounts set up and I lose track of them because I just am a moron. That’s the only excuse I can come up with. It’s sad, to be honest. My mind doesn’t work with number…at all…clearly. I really did try super mega hard to be responsible and I’m not giving up just yet. I will get this down. And, even though I am stupid, how is it that the bank can take cash out of an account that is negative, put it in another account, and then charge me an insufficient funds fee for it? Why wouldn’t they deny the transfer and send me an email or something? I don’t understand that, either. Oh, and I meant to post a pic from my sisters sonogram yesterday, but I forgot. So here you go. If I can figure out how to do it.
I also had to have a talk about how I have a tendency to not give those people who deserve my attention that in which they deserve. I don’t realize that I let the world around me be as consuming as it is. See, this Sunday was Pride day in Dallas and my friend Vio had a pre-parade party. Michelle and I went to the party, but I let myself get so wrapped up in my friends that I ignored her. That’s not cool. I didn’t mean to do it. And I think what’s even worse about not giving any attention was the fact that once it was pointed out to me, I had no idea what to say. I can’t really apologize for something that I didn’t realize I did. I can apologize generically for acting in a way that may lead her to feel bad, but I feel dishonest when I apologize and I don’t whole heartedly know where I went wrong. Am I the on;y person who feels this way or is it a common thing? Am I a jerk for not just saying “I’m sorry” instead of “I don’t know what to say?” Somebody help me out here because clearly I am clueless.
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“I can’t really apologize for something that I didn’t realize I did. I can apologize generically for acting in a way that may lead her to feel bad, but I feel dishonest when I apologize and I don’t whole heartedly know where I went wrong. Am I the on;y person who feels this way or is it a common thing?”
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Don’t apologize for things you don’t genuinely feel badly for. Also, people are responsible for their own feelings, not those around them. Not trying to be bitchy..just saying. Was she even bothered by it or did you just assumme. Some people are okay with not having their significant other’s entire attention….. she may be that kinda person. Anyway… my two pesos.
Comment by Cindi — September 23, 2008 #
I think you need to appologize to her and simply just tell her you’re sorry you made her feel that way and you didn’t mean to ignore her… Since she pointed it out to you do you see that’s what you did? Or can you at least see what made her feel that way? Sometimes we do things and don’t realize we are doing them or not doing them and once it’s pointed out you can see how they were right– even tho you didn’t do anything on purpose… Or maybe you can look at things and see that she’s just being needy…? Food for thought. But I’d def tello her I was sorry that I truly didn’t mean to ignore her… my 2 cents
Comment by melanie — September 24, 2008 #
also another thought— maybe you shouldn’t have taken her. I mean we all need time with just friends. There’s nothing wrong with that either
Comment by melanie — September 24, 2008 #
ooh i have done this so many times. i didn’t know that i offended my loved one and what do you do?? i just say that i am sorry for it happening, but i do point out, hey i didn’t know ok? (I just TRY not to sound *itchy about it) and say that i will TRY very hard not to do this again. i always say that i suck but i promise to get better…
but you are right, don’t apologize for something you don’t really mean cuz it will bite ya on the butt later.
♥Denise
Comment by denise — September 24, 2008 #
I’ve been in this situation sooo many times! i’m such a social butterfly and it gets me into so much trouble without me even knowing it. Key words … not even knowing it! just be aware of it in the future. Be glad she wants to do things with you and wants to go places with you but be aware of her presence as well. I sooo know where you’re coming from! Say sorry and move onwards!!!!!!!!
Comment by Lori — September 24, 2008 #
I wouldnt apologize for something you didnt intentionally do Shanon. Dont worry about it, its a very common thing, its not just you
Have a good week
Comment by Savannah — September 25, 2008 #
Ok let’s look at this in realistic point of view. You have to ask a few questions here first.
How did you ask her? I mean, did you say would you like to go to a party with me or hey there is a party you can go if you want. One implies a couple while the other implies signally.
Another would be, does she know anyone else at the party, well if not, etiquette would say introduce her around before bailing, lol. You also may want to check in occasionally.
Listen the end result is this. If you care for this individual as a friend or whatever, what’s the harm in saying “hey are you having a good time? “ Does it mean the individual is needy? Not at all, it just means your being a good hostess.
I am sure if she is adult enough about the situation, she would realize it wasn’t done intentionally and as far as apologizing what’s wrong with compassion. What harm does it really do?
Sometimes role reversal works wonders. Who knows, she may also want to apologize to you for intruding when all is said and done.
Comment by NorthrnLights — October 1, 2008 #