Comments on: Who can’t add? Apparently me.

By: NorthrnLights

NorthrnLights — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 03:25:41 +0000

Ok let’s look at this in realistic point of view. You have to ask a few questions here first.

How did you ask her? I mean, did you say would you like to go to a party with me or hey there is a party you can go if you want. One implies a couple while the other implies signally.

Another would be, does she know anyone else at the party, well if not, etiquette would say introduce her around before bailing, lol. You also may want to check in occasionally.

Listen the end result is this. If you care for this individual as a friend or whatever, what’s the harm in saying “hey are you having a good time? “ Does it mean the individual is needy? Not at all, it just means your being a good hostess.

I am sure if she is adult enough about the situation, she would realize it wasn’t done intentionally and as far as apologizing what’s wrong with compassion. What harm does it really do?

Sometimes role reversal works wonders. Who knows, she may also want to apologize to you for intruding when all is said and done.

By: Savannah

Savannah — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 11:48:58 +0000

I wouldnt apologize for something you didnt intentionally do Shanon. Dont worry about it, its a very common thing, its not just you

Have a good week

By: Lori

Lori — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 18:59:26 +0000

I’ve been in this situation sooo many times! i’m such a social butterfly and it gets me into so much trouble without me even knowing it. Key words … not even knowing it! just be aware of it in the future. Be glad she wants to do things with you and wants to go places with you but be aware of her presence as well. I sooo know where you’re coming from! Say sorry and move onwards!!!!!!!!

By: denise

denise — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 11:51:01 +0000

ooh i have done this so many times. i didn’t know that i offended my loved one and what do you do?? i just say that i am sorry for it happening, but i do point out, hey i didn’t know ok? (I just TRY not to sound *itchy about it) and say that i will TRY very hard not to do this again. i always say that i suck but i promise to get better…
but you are right, don’t apologize for something you don’t really mean cuz it will bite ya on the butt later.

♥Denise

By: melanie

melanie — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 11:21:04 +0000

also another thought— maybe you shouldn’t have taken her. I mean we all need time with just friends. There’s nothing wrong with that either

By: melanie

melanie — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 11:18:09 +0000

I think you need to appologize to her and simply just tell her you’re sorry you made her feel that way and you didn’t mean to ignore her… Since she pointed it out to you do you see that’s what you did? Or can you at least see what made her feel that way? Sometimes we do things and don’t realize we are doing them or not doing them and once it’s pointed out you can see how they were right– even tho you didn’t do anything on purpose… Or maybe you can look at things and see that she’s just being needy…? Food for thought. But I’d def tello her I was sorry that I truly didn’t mean to ignore her… my 2 cents

By: Cindi

Cindi — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 18:32:18 +0000

“I can’t really apologize for something that I didn’t realize I did. I can apologize generically for acting in a way that may lead her to feel bad, but I feel dishonest when I apologize and I don’t whole heartedly know where I went wrong. Am I the on;y person who feels this way or is it a common thing?”
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Don’t apologize for things you don’t genuinely feel badly for. Also, people are responsible for their own feelings, not those around them. Not trying to be bitchy..just saying. Was she even bothered by it or did you just assumme. Some people are okay with not having their significant other’s entire attention….. she may be that kinda person. Anyway… my two pesos.